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Why Showing Up Imperfectly Is Better Than Not Showing Up at All

I’ve spent the past few weeks quietly turning inward and dismantling my own unacknowledged inherent biases. It’s been uncomfortable, to say the least, but who am I to not be uncomfortable?

As I continue to learn, reflect, and search for the right words to say and the correct actions to take, I realize that in order for real and lasting change to take place, it starts with me; it begins by doing the hard but necessary work to examine myself first. It means I must acknowledge that I’ve come as far as I have in life because of my own inherited privilege.

If you’re like me and you’re still grappling with what role you can step into to begin this lifelong process of dismantling oppression and discrimination, here are a few things to keep in mind (particularly if you are overwhelmed):

  • It’s OK to take your time learning.
  • It’s OK to feel confused.
  • It’s OK to get clear in your own heart first.
  • It’s OK to use your voice, to share your truth—or even if you’re struggling to find the words to say out loud.
  • It’s OK to pace yourself and honor your own process and make mistakes along the way!

We can’t just sit back and think that inequality and injustice will go away on its own. It won’t until we collectively speak up and speak out. By remaining silent, we inadvertently contribute to the violence.

I know in my heart that we are truly interconnected. What happens then, if one person were to generate a ripple effect that could have an impact on everyone else? Compassion and education are a good place to start—but again, it starts with us by doing the necessary work on ourselves, first.

How Can We Help? In the process of beginning my own (long) overdue work, my biggest takeaway has been that there is still so much to learn. I realize that a major part of this learning process is actually in un-learning our own biases.

Together, we must commit to having ongoing, uncomfortable conversations both on and offline, and practice nonviolent communication strategies whenever our beliefs conflict with others. The more curious we continue to be, however, the more space we create for change.

As a food blogger and Instagrammer in the wellness space, I can use my platform to highlight BIPOC wellness accounts and foodies, and to be sure to give credit where credit is due—recipes included! 

What if each and every one of us made an ongoing, concerted effort to buy from and promote BIPOC-owned and operated businesses on our platforms and in our personal circles? This is how we create a ripple effect of change. This is how we fight for justice and equality together.

And let’s remember to pace ourselves, too. This is a practice we’ll be committing to for the rest of our lives. I know that I might make mistakes along the way, but it’s better to do the work imperfectly than not do it at all.

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BIPOC Voices and Businesses You Can Follow and Support Right Now

Books Vegan Soul Kitchen: Fresh, Healthy, and Creative African-American Cuisine by Bryant Terry, a James Beard Award-winning chef, is a vegan homage to Southern, African American, and Afro-Caribbean food. His Instagram account is also great—just look at this Apple & Kohlrabi Coleslaw!

Black Girl Baking: Wholesome Recipes Inspired by a Soulful Upbringing by Janelle Guy, is a combination of recipes and storytelling. Baking takes on a whole new meaning with the food memories woven into each dish.

Best-selling author, artist, activist, and poet Cleo Wade’s Where to Begin: A Small Book About Your Power to Create Big Change in Our Crazy World and Heart Talk: Poetic Wisdom for a Better Life will inspire you to do and be better.

I’ve also recently picked up copies of Robin Diangelo’s White Fragility, Brian Stevenson’s Just Mercy, DeRay McKesson’s On the Other Side of Freedom, and Ibram X. Kendi’s How to be an Antiracist.

Podcasts Andrea Jones, creator of OnlineDrea, a social media marketing company, hosts the Savvy Social podcast which features insightful interviews and offers incredible marketing tips to take your business to the next level.

The What A Day podcast is the perfect addition to your morning. Hosted by comedian Akilah Hughes and reporter Gideon Resnick, it’s a 15-minute update on current events that feels fun and non-overwhelming.

Documentaries & TV Specials Legendary comedian Dave Chappelle recently recorded and released “8:46” on YouTube, which was exactly the amount of time that a police officer kneeled on George Floyd’s neck as he begged him not to kill him.

A Ballerina’s Tale” gives us a behind-the-scenes look at the career of Misty Copeland, the first Black woman to be named principal dancer with the American Ballet Theatre.

Beauty Brands Kalone Kazmediks sells skincare cleansing oil, detoxifying masks, and fragrance oil keychains on Etsy.

Nailey’s Naturals makes travel-size lotion bars, as well as amazing bath bombs and gorgeous, flower-filled bath soaks.

Cocoa Meditation makes super affordable, travel-friendly meditation candles in scents like Tropical Essence, Golden Tranquility, and Onyx Reign.

Blogs and Influencers to Follow Marisa Moore Marisa is a registered dietitian nutritionist who shares a zero-judgment, plant-forward, science-based recipes—a nutrition approach that’s also fueled with a whole lot of heart. Marisa’s food is just magical! (Witness this Maple Walnut Blueberry Crisp!)

Orchids and Sweet Tea Shanika is a talented source for amazing comfort food and sweets, with a healthy twist, of course! THINK: Dairy-free, gluten-free, vegan, and healthier classic recipes that NEVER lack flavor or character!

Mash and Spread Jasmin is a registered dietitian in the DC area who didn't grow up learning about healthy eating. Now, she has developed and shares her passion for food, photography, and farmers markets.

All the Healthy Things Ashlea is all about community and using food to connect with others. She focuses on providing simple, real food recipes to help women live a happy balanced life that they enjoy.

Supper with Michelle Michelle grew up cooking with her mom. A self-proclaimed veggie enthusiast and soup lover, she shares mainly vegetarian, pescatarian, and vegan dishes.

Jessica in the Kitchen Jessica is an award-winning photographer, videographer and home chef! She decided to go vegetarian several years ago, and immediately saw a change in her health, sleep, mood and overall lifestyle for the better. Now she’s vegan and shares all her simple everyday dishes.

Ayana Gabrielle Lage Ayana is a lifestyle blogger who writes about everything from fashion to pregnancy loss to how to edit photos. Her voice is engaging, and there is no shortage of topics!

Sophia Roe Sophia is a chef, wellness advocate, and food and feelings enthusiast. Her work centers around making the language of wellness more diverse, more inclusive, and more accepting.

Waste Free Marie Marie advocates for people and the planet. She advises on climate and racial injustice and explains how to become an advocate and take action.

What did I miss? What would you add to this list? And most importantly, what steps are you taking to educate yourself? Let me know in the comments.

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